Talking about Weight Loss: How can Your Mind keep You Fat?

Matt was really interested in my Weight Loss site and my Weight Loss Book: Why your Mind keeps you Fat & How you can Fix It! .

"Let me have a look at your book", he said, while he browsed my Weight Loss site , pointing out usablility and technical "faults" to me.

(Matt is easily the most intelligent analyst/programmer I've met, his mind sharper than any razor blade, and I take his advice seriously.)

I smiled back. "Sure, sometime, but you don’t really need it, Matt. (Matt weighs all of 54 kgs). That book can help any one achieve Permanent Weight Loss, but you don’t have the problem. So you don’t need the solution."

"So why don’t you give a copy to X over there?" He asked, pointing with his eyes in X's direction. (X is the big man across the way.)

“I want to help people, but I don’t just give them my book. X, for example, would most probably spit at me rather than thank me for the book.
You see, people need to know they have a problem.

And then they must be motivated enough to look for a solution to their problem ( If they have been constantly battling their weight, or they are up and down like a yoyo, or they've never been in shape at all, all their lives.)

And hopefully, the realization that they're failing at getting the body they really want, will get them onto the Internet and they will find my site.

And hopefully they will buy my book, which will help them to fix their overweight lives,” I answered.

Still, Matt would not let me be.

"So why don’t you put that book out in hard copy?" he asked.

"I’ve a different long-term strategy", I answered. "I want to work with people, face to face, one on one. Personally help them to change."

"But how can you charge people for helping them?" asked Matt.

"Well, they've got a problem, I help them. And they get the Weight Loss result they want, that they need.

It's my time, knowledge and energy, the effort I've taken to put it all together. And they get results, results they can see, results that they dearly want in their lives, so I deserve payment", I answered.

"But how can your mind make you fat?" asked Matt, his cursor hovering over the image of my book on my Weight Loss site's first page.

"Many things about the way your mind works, or is conditioned to work, can make you fat: For example, you may have learnt to get fat from your environment, from your parents."

Matt looked at me incredulously “How would my parents make me fat?”

"Let me give you an example, Matt," I said.

"Recently Tanya, the kids and myself went away for a few days, camping out in the (Australian) Bush with a few other families.

A couple of the kids there, who were matched in age with my daughter (aged 8) and my eldest son (aged 6) were quite double the weight of my two children.

"Well, it could be that the parents are feeding them junk", interrupted Matt.

"Sure, their parents, especially the mother, were BIG. AND she did dish out a lot of junk.

But think about this, Matt. Tanya puts plates full of food in front of my kids. And both of us parents have to work hard to get our kids to eat even half of the food put before them.

My kids eat only so much and no more. You can't really force kids to eat.

And my kids are not running around the yard all day, burning up tons of energy, either. But they're half the size of those kids. So those other kids must be eating loads of stuff."

"The question then arises: How did these other kids learn to eat so much so that they get fat?"

"They're picking it up from their parents!

These parents, who really love them, and care for them, and who the kids look up to, are regularly putting away plates heaped with food.

What do the kids do, as a matter of course? They learn by example, without the parents having to tell them to eat up.

They learn the sad "joy" of having a belly over-filled with food every meal time, simply because their beloved mother sits back, over-stuffed with
fatty, buttery, cheese waffles, and groans happily about how "stoofed" she's feeling.

You see, they are learning a pattern of behavior, a "rule" for the rest of their lives.

And already, those poor kids have started showing the sad results of the "joy" of over-filling their stomachs, in their young over-weight bodies.

The other sad thing is, these kids will have enormous difficulty unlearning that "rule", that pattern of life that they have unconsciously picked up from their loving parents."

Matt's eyes widened, and his face looked as though a light-bulb had gone on in his head somewhere.

I guess he realized the truth in what I always harp on about ("It's your Mind that keeps you Fat").

He nodded, then. " And did you tell them about your book?"

"No," I said, sadly. "Like I said, people have to realize that they've got a weight problem themselves.

You can't take a horse to the water. When they are ready, they will search for the solution to their weight problem."

And hopefully, find a good Weight Loss Book that will fix the mind that keeps them fat.